True Love...according to Mike

DISCLAIMER: I've never been in love. I have loved though.
definition: In Love: To Love someone and be loved back in similar fashion.
Here are some clarifiers:
Love comes in many forms.
There are many definitions of Love.
We all have conceptions and misconceptions of what love is, what we think love should be, what we want it to be, what we think it ends up being. We (and by we, I mean me but also some of you) think we have it all figured out when we are in love, because the experts are the lovers, right up until they are not.
Shakespeare knew this.


Love takes time.

I hate waiting.
BUT this is not actually what this blog is about.
This blog is actually about why I believe in True Love.
Wait, did you just say "True Love."
What was all that stuff up there?
Well, I will tell you.
I define True Love by the very pinnacle of it's expression.

What were you expecting?

If you know me, or have known me, it would be obvious we would end up here. 

Confused?

Get used to it.

But I will explain.

The Princess Bride. 

It ruined my life. It defined it, err I mean it defines it.

that and the teachings of Jesus (the biblical one)

NOOOOOO, YOU HADE TO BRING RELIGION INTO THIS!

Get over it.

Jesus is about love. True Love stems from Jesus.

I mean, unless you are an Atheist, then I strongly suspect that you don't believe in True Love since that seems to be all Atheist spend their time doing- not believing in things (kidding).

If you are Atheist and exceedingly patient and still here, then let me explain.

Belief is a powerful thing. Facts (which are or at least supposed to be proven ideas) and Beliefs are the same thing- come from same source (see the scientific article on the net).

BUT this is not actually what this blog is about.

So what is this blog about Mike?

It's about accepting something that simply is.

For me, there are things that simply are.

I don't just believe in them, practice them, fail them, they are and I know they are.

God, Light, Love.

These three things are.

Things is a bad word, but then there is no other word I have to capture it. I could use ideas but that seems a little immaterial. I could use facts (the Atheist should like that save that only one of those facts would be acceptable to him or it). I will just stick to things (apologies to the others).

So back to my point....shades of Vizzini. 

I accept God and Light and Love. 

My Trinity.

Also, for me, these things are one and the same.

(probably another blog which I probably won't write).

So now I have written almost an entire blog about True Love and still not come to the meat of the matter.

So here is the axis of it all, the apogee.

True Love is.

It is, like love is.

You can Accept it or not. It doesn't change that it happens and that writers and poets and songwriters and singers and lovers will try to quantify, qualify and contain it into one song, poem, movie or declaration and succeed and fail. Love is undefinable with infinite expressions of it.

However, True Love is something more than that.

Just like being in love is different than loving someone.

Sheena Sharma: "You can be in love with a man, and loving him will automatically come with the package, but you don’t have to necessarily be in love with a man in order to love him."

I found her article and it fits in well here. I agree with much of what she says about the importance of being in love.

The Difference Between Loving Someone And Being In Love

but I want to talk about True Love.

I read several other sources including ones I would have once written myself defining what it is to truly love someone.

However, the more I consider true love, I am struck by one prevailing principle: True Love never stops, never quits, never ends, crosses beyond death, and never, never gives up.

If you find it with someone, you are not going to buy into the idea that "if you really love him- you have to be willing to let him go."

(Expletive deleted) That!

True Love has to mean not accepting the world's view of love and loss nor the practical, logical acceptance that people fall in and out of love.

Westley: I told you I would always come for you. Why didn't you wait for me?

Buttercup: Well... you were dead.

Westley: Death cannot stop true love. All it can do is delay it for a while.

Buttercup: I will never doubt again.

Westley: There will never be a need.

For me,  I think the peace that I have come to is that True Love is truly rare. It only happens once in a lifetime and being the schmucks that we tend to be, we ignore it.

We either miss the bus or walk away from the "click."

The click is that human response when two people meet and they click like they are two puzzle pieces in a huge jigsaw jumble and if they both allow it, will fit together.

It's not like you won't meet other people and be happy with them. It's not like you cannot be in love with someone else, it is more this is the perfect fit but not the only fit.

I want the click, probably since I have never really met another person I would be willing to drop everything for or cross the globe to find out if it was all for love.

I want the click.

Now back to acceptance. Because I accept God, Light and Love; I also accept that the Three have a plan for me.

I can allow that plan to form my life (I'm trying to accept this like I accept breathing)- or I can let my doubts creep in and say things like "If there is only one person for me than I probably missed her since it hasn't happened yet."

I don't pretend to know God's plan, but I suspect that there is one for all of us. 

You get to choose whether you follow it. 

Accept the click when it happens.

Or just decide you know better and ignore the obvious and go your own way. Many if not most of us do the latter and hence my argument that True Love is truly rare becomes true.

If we could would or even should accept my earlier inference then we should show patience and acceptance that we all have someone in our life we are supposed to be with. 

The soulmate sounds too corny to me. (sorry)

One True Love.

And the Cynics and Haters will have a field day with that.

What if she dies before you meet, as if anyone human has that knowledge. If you accept or believe in things unseen, unproven, that goes beyond your 5 senses, then you should accept that True Love like God and Light can and does exist for all of us.

It just takes patience and the willingness to admit that you don't have it all figured out.

Also, if you are with someone and what I just said annoys you because you think I am wrong and all the decisions you made ended you up with that other person this invalidating my entire argument. Let me ask you this.

Are you sure that you have not just had True Love all this time and ignored it?

This is not an argument.

This is me saying, I accept that the Universe has meaning

and by that I mean I accept that God has a plan for me.

I accept that Light is more than what I feel on my skin, the brightness in the darkness, the scientific levels of protons and photons, the colors that the light translates into my brain, the way light falls across my lover's hair, the shadows it casts when it intersects with other objects, the way it bends around things if not just going through them, I accept there is more to light than I will ever know as I accept that there is more to love than I will ever understand.

I may die alone questioning how I managed to miss my significant other, but that is what is then not what is now where it hasn't happened yet.

This is the way I process life.
I will wait.
I will listen.
I will love.
One day, I might get it right.
Now for the rest:
Love is like this.



 It's just to clarify a point.




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and finally

In the End, I return to my favorite film and let it redefine True Love all over again.
and that is True Love...according to Mike.