Notice: I am making this post in several parts as it is just too long and complicated to put it in one.
DISCLAIMER!!!!
I expect this post to make a lot of people upset. The only good news is most of them won't read much more than the first few lines if they even bother to look at this blog.
I am an expert on bullying and intimidation and the life long effects of it because I am the victim/result of at least 22 years of being bullied and intimidated (probably longer)
I have some college courses in psychology and all that academic stuff.
I have been in therapy (on and off) since I was Junior in High School (although that is arguable since I had been in therapy sessions before that although {I just said that} those were laughable by comparison).
Also I wanted to use lots of parentheses and spell check.
now on to the actual blog.
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Everyone has experienced Bullying. Our society is rife with it (think an seemingly incurable disease).
Intimidation, that is what it is, is widely used to keep people in line with an idea, a law, a religious outlook, a doctrine. Intimidation is forceful persuasion and in my humble opinion never, never, never, never, never a good or beneficial thing unless you are the intimidator and then it's mostly imaginary since even that damages your psyche (soul is you must).
I say never a lot because I did not always hold with this opinion.
Like many people who have been bullied, I at several points in my life became the bully. Mostly in pathetic shameful ways and I used such esteemed texts like THE ART OF WAR by Sun Tzu (supposedly- the first part of that book is mostly justification trying to identify the sick bastard who thought it up in the first place- although I hold with the idea that the author was plural authors- a group effort), THE PRINCE by Machiavelli which is almost as bad (if you disagree ask yourself this: Where does Machiavellian Villain come from?), and the last is ironic for me, STARSHIP TROOPERS by Robert Heinlein.
The reasons of the irony would take another blog to explain. I will just explain why I have it with these two other texts. Starship Troopers is a book about intimidation. In some ways (especially to critics) it is an extended soliloquy on how to rule the world through intimidation and fear. Realizing the truth about the book made it one of my all time favorites. As I said, the book is truly ironic, RH would laugh quite a bit along with Shakespeare.
What does that have to do with Bullying? Or the "Bullyers" (new term)?
Simple, they (we) use it to justify our motivations and actions.
"You can't get anything accomplished by being nice."
How widespread is intimidation?
Sports, politics, advertising. Should I continue?
In the USA is is permeated into everything everywhere. Somehow the struggles of the downtrodden became the model for American know how and achievement. I applaud every victim of intimidation that rose above it and overcame their oppressors as long as they didn't take their places as the bullies.
You should know that is so bad when they make a video game that not only glorifies it but justifies the whole dog eat dog agenda we are stuck in:
But enough about the bullies. They don't deserve the attention.
THE LIFELONG EFFECTS OF INTIMIDATION OR BULLYING
I am going to be 45, in less than a week
I still feel the effects of the Bullying I underwent throughout my life today. I still find myself making decisions based on how I was treated by others in those situations.
They probably call it "victim mentality."
Which may or may not matter.
The important thing to understand that many kids get bullied at some point. This is true, but some are bullied relentlessly and it never ends. Can I explain this?
Yes and no.
The yes answer goes like this. Most people who get bullied either join the oppressors as soon as a weaker/easier victim appears and it is like their own humiliation and pain is transformed into the despicable energy that others once used on them. The bullied become the bullies.
Or they face down their tormentors and beat them physically.
This is the crux of all the Karate Kid movies.
Ralph Macchio beats his tormentor and gains his respect because his tormentor is just one of the aforementioned victims himself.
As idiotic as that concept is. It happens, I have seen it happen. I even walked a little ways down that dark road.
Life seldom actually ends up like this. Many kids escape notice and become invisible to the bullyers. The truly fortunate are those kids who at least appear normal from the outside and don't draw attention to the fact that they are different. As a victim, I used to think that was okay. These kids are the bystanders but they also participate in the abuse just by being present and doing nothing.
DISCLAIMER!!!!
I expect this post to make a lot of people upset. The only good news is most of them won't read much more than the first few lines if they even bother to look at this blog.
I am an expert on bullying and intimidation and the life long effects of it because I am the victim/result of at least 22 years of being bullied and intimidated (probably longer)
I have some college courses in psychology and all that academic stuff.
I have been in therapy (on and off) since I was Junior in High School (although that is arguable since I had been in therapy sessions before that although {I just said that} those were laughable by comparison).
Also I wanted to use lots of parentheses and spell check.
now on to the actual blog.
BULLYING IS JUST ANOTHER WAY TO SAY INTIMIDATION
Everyone has experienced Bullying. Our society is rife with it (think an seemingly incurable disease).
Intimidation, that is what it is, is widely used to keep people in line with an idea, a law, a religious outlook, a doctrine. Intimidation is forceful persuasion and in my humble opinion never, never, never, never, never a good or beneficial thing unless you are the intimidator and then it's mostly imaginary since even that damages your psyche (soul is you must).
I say never a lot because I did not always hold with this opinion.
Like many people who have been bullied, I at several points in my life became the bully. Mostly in pathetic shameful ways and I used such esteemed texts like THE ART OF WAR by Sun Tzu (supposedly- the first part of that book is mostly justification trying to identify the sick bastard who thought it up in the first place- although I hold with the idea that the author was plural authors- a group effort), THE PRINCE by Machiavelli which is almost as bad (if you disagree ask yourself this: Where does Machiavellian Villain come from?), and the last is ironic for me, STARSHIP TROOPERS by Robert Heinlein.
The reasons of the irony would take another blog to explain. I will just explain why I have it with these two other texts. Starship Troopers is a book about intimidation. In some ways (especially to critics) it is an extended soliloquy on how to rule the world through intimidation and fear. Realizing the truth about the book made it one of my all time favorites. As I said, the book is truly ironic, RH would laugh quite a bit along with Shakespeare.
What does that have to do with Bullying? Or the "Bullyers" (new term)?
Simple, they (we) use it to justify our motivations and actions.
"You can't get anything accomplished by being nice."
How widespread is intimidation?
Sports, politics, advertising. Should I continue?
In the USA is is permeated into everything everywhere. Somehow the struggles of the downtrodden became the model for American know how and achievement. I applaud every victim of intimidation that rose above it and overcame their oppressors as long as they didn't take their places as the bullies.
You should know that is so bad when they make a video game that not only glorifies it but justifies the whole dog eat dog agenda we are stuck in:
But enough about the bullies. They don't deserve the attention.
THE LIFELONG EFFECTS OF INTIMIDATION OR BULLYING
I am going to be 45, in less than a week
I still feel the effects of the Bullying I underwent throughout my life today. I still find myself making decisions based on how I was treated by others in those situations.
They probably call it "victim mentality."
Which may or may not matter.The important thing to understand that many kids get bullied at some point. This is true, but some are bullied relentlessly and it never ends. Can I explain this?
Yes and no.
The yes answer goes like this. Most people who get bullied either join the oppressors as soon as a weaker/easier victim appears and it is like their own humiliation and pain is transformed into the despicable energy that others once used on them. The bullied become the bullies.
Or they face down their tormentors and beat them physically.
This is the crux of all the Karate Kid movies.
Ralph Macchio beats his tormentor and gains his respect because his tormentor is just one of the aforementioned victims himself.
As idiotic as that concept is. It happens, I have seen it happen. I even walked a little ways down that dark road.
Life seldom actually ends up like this. Many kids escape notice and become invisible to the bullyers. The truly fortunate are those kids who at least appear normal from the outside and don't draw attention to the fact that they are different. As a victim, I used to think that was okay. These kids are the bystanders but they also participate in the abuse just by being present and doing nothing.
These kids sit there and watch, then they graduate to stand there and watch. They are like the proverbial pharisee who thanks God that he/she is not one of them all the while knowing that they could get involved but their own fear stops them from interfering.
Then one day, the bystanders become the "egger ons" who encourage the bully on to do more, hurt more, humiliate more. They become the audience for the Bullies' ego.
I hate the audience more than I hate the bullies.
(which is hard for me to say since I once believed that I no longer hated anyone)
This was and has been life according to Mike
at least, for me, it no longer is in my life
but it remains in others,
so many, many others.
I will conclude on a video I watched today.
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